Do you believe in 'Open' relationships?

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My ex and I talked about this many times and I just couldn't do it.

I mean, what is the point of being in a relationship if you are just going to bang other people anyway?
It just never made any sense to me.

Discuss.
Have you ever been in an open relationship? Do you want to try it?
How do you think your significant other/spouse would react? How do you define your current relationship?
 
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In my previous long term relationship which ended about a year ago (8 years together) around the 5-6 year mark we discussed having an open relationship and both decided against it. We had a mutual friend who was in what seemed like a successful open relationship for years.

Anyway, in my case I'm just old fashioned.

And the likelyhood that if we'd gone open relationship she'd be getting laid and I wouldn't :D That would have been pretty hard to handle!

I don't know I mean that open relationship discussion seemed to plant the idea of going our seperate ways tbh. Not saying it's necessarily a sign of a relationship running its course, but at the same time if you're thinking of experiencing other people so intimately, maybe there's something missing in your relationship or there's a desire to experience something new as in moving on permanently a year or two down the road.
 
Nope. I believe "open relationships" is another term of saying we are officially still together until I find someone that is better (at banging) than you.

Besides, who wants to bang someone who's been actively banging someone else? Gross.
 
If it's a relationship, relationship, it will almost always lead to problems. If it's bang buddies, someone usually develops feelings and problems arise.
 
Never tried, but I just don't think it could work. One person is always going to end up getting hurt because of it.
 
I can see the appeal. Sex is not a spiritual connection for some people, it's just a physical act. Some guys get off knowing that their girl is getting hit up, then coming back to their real love afterward.
 
I met this drug dealer(he dealt herb, and acid), and his girlfriend through a mutual friend when I was like 21 or 22. I guess I had known them for about 4 or 5 months. One day at work he showed up and handed me a letter then left. The letter had been doused with CK One, and the letter was from his girlfriend telling me she wanted to have sex with me. I had sex with her 3 or 4 times, and never had any trouble with her boyfriend. I felt really weird though when I was around both of them. She was pretty hot, otherwise I never would have done it.

I had another wild incident happen a couple years later. My best friend and I moved to Cookeville, TN together when he was a student at TTU. We had left a little get together we had with some friends at around midnight. We were both pretty lit, and stopped at a store to get more beer to drink when we got home. We were almost out of money, and we were counting change to pay for our beer. A guy behind us asked us if we wanted to go to a party. We didn't know the guy, but we said sure. He told us to follow him. So we followed him to an apartment complex that didn't have hardly any cars in the parking lot. My friend, and I became a little suspicious. So I told my friend that I would go in and check it out, and if I wasn't back in a few minutes go call the police.

So I followed the guy into the apartment, Right in front of the door was a lit staircase that led to the upstairs of the apartment. He started up the stairs, and I heard a female say "Who did you bring me?". At the top of the stairs a smoking hot blonde stepped out in a silver satin short length robe. She came down the stairs where the guy had stopped. He opened up the robe showing me her tits, and asked me if I wanted to "f***" her. I said yeah, then went upstairs and started having sex with her. He sat in the corner and watched. After a while, he said that I needed to leave because her husband would be getting home soon. So I left, my friend wasn't in the parking lot anymore. So I just started down the road walking, and then realized that I had forgotten my coat. So I went back to the apartment and knocked on the door. The guy answers the door completely naked, it was then that I figured out that he was the chics husband. I told him that I needed my coat, so he went and got it for me. I started back down the road when my friend showed up and picked me up. And needless to say I had one helluva story to tell him.

Despite these two incidents I could never be in an "open" relationship. I get mad, not aroused at the thought of a woman Im with being with someone else.
 
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No, I couldn't do that. If it puts my health in jeopardy, it's not worth it.
 
Been there, done that. Had around a 5 month relationship with a girl and her girlfriend, rarely did all three of us get together at the same time, but it was a good spring/summer. Was pretty sad when they both went to college and it ended but years later I realized how unhealthy a "relationship" it was. Obviously I have fond memories, VERY fond memories but had it continued there's no doubt that we would have parted hating each other instead of as good friends that still talk online and over the phone quite often.

So my answer is yes, I believe in them just as I believe it takes a very special (for lack of a better term) type of person to make it work for any length of time.
 
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sharkboy1200 said:
It is a pretty dick move to not change positions though. A threesome needs to be a well coitus oiled machine.
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Just because there's 3 people doesn't mean it's a threesome and that's probably what happened here.

I experienced this once. 2 dudes and 1 girl. Well guess what the girl is going to want one of the guys more than the other and it gets pretty awkward when you're the guy watching and when you're just right there watching you also start to think how f***ed up the whole thing is and what a slut she is and how disgusting sex really is and you just want some wholesome girl to love you like you deserve.

Best idea is to just leave if they're not sharing but murder could totally enter into the equation depending on the circumstances!
 
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Just because there's 3 people doesn't mean it's a threesome and that's probably what happened here.

I experienced this once. 2 dudes and 1 girl. Well guess what the girl is going to want one of the guys more than the other and it gets pretty awkward when you're the guy watching and when you're just right there watching you also start to think how f***ed up the whole thing is and what a slut she is and how disgusting sex really is and you just want some wholesome girl to love you like you deserve.

Best idea is to just leave if they're not sharing but murder could totally enter into the equation depending on the circumstances!
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Especially if it was his gf to begin with.
 
Zer0beaT said:
Just because there's 3 people doesn't mean it's a threesome and that's probably what happened here.

I experienced this once. 2 dudes and 1 girl. Well guess what the girl is going to want one of the guys more than the other and it gets pretty awkward when you're the guy watching and when you're just right there watching you also start to think how f***ed up the whole thing is and what a slut she is and how disgusting sex really is and you just want some wholesome girl to love you like you deserve.

Best idea is to just leave if they're not sharing but murder could totally enter into the equation depending on the circumstances!
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Any woman not willing to be dp'ed in a threesome might as well be thrown out the top floor window.
 
Cheating sucks. If you are in a relationship and find someone better, dump the current person first. The only way it works is if it is clear that you are not in a relationship and just "screw" buddies.

Guys get possessive and girls are just plain crazy. Like I said, cheating sucks. A friend of mine started cheating on his wife with any chick he could find. Eventually he got divorced. The girl he's dating now knows about his cheating and is paranoid about him doing it again.
 
Secular Men's Health magazine reported on an extensive study about sex, and the health benefits.

100% of the health benefits were only statistically relevant in monogamous, committed sexual relationships. Sex in that context lowered stress, among many other health benefits... But again, only within the context of a committed, monogamous relationship. When people had sex frivolously, it actually raised stress, contributed to sexually transmitted diseases (obviously), and generally DECREASED health.

So there are legitimate health reasons not to have frivolous sex... But then there are the moral reasons.

Even if it wasn't unhealthy in many ways, I wouldn't do it. We're not animals, and we don't need to sow our wild oats, and it would be murderous on the self esteem of most normal people. It's wrong. Plain and simple. Some things really are right, some things really are wrong. This is one example.
 
Flynn said:
Secular Men's Health magazine reported on an extensive study about sex, and the health benefits.

100% of the health benefits were only statistically relevant in monogamous, committed sexual relationships. Sex in that context lowered stress, among many other health benefits... But again, only within the context of a committed, monogamous relationship. When people had sex frivolously, it actually raised stress, contributed to sexually transmitted diseases (obviously), and generally DECREASED health.

So there are legitimate health reasons not to have frivolous sex... But then there are the moral reasons.

Even if it wasn't unhealthy in many ways, I wouldn't do it. We're not animals, and we don't need to sow our wild oats, and it would be murderous on the self esteem of most normal people. It's wrong. Plain and simple. Some things really are right, some things really are wrong. This is one example.
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Secular Men's Health magazine? Strange name.
 
Flynn said:
Oh, sorry - I meant the secular magazine, "Men's Health".
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Is health considered a touchy subject or something? I guess some religions are pretty specific towards diets, but Men's Health has hardly ever been one to wave any secular/religious flags of any kind.
 
sharkboy1200 said:
Is health considered a touchy subject or something? I guess some religions are pretty specific towards diets, but Men's Health has hardly ever been one to wave any secular/religious flags of any kind.
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No, health is not a touchy subject. I was merely pointing out that a non-Christian source inadvertently backed what the Christian has always believed... That is, that monogamy is better. :-)
 
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