If your girlfriend, or boyfriend, cheated on you with the opposite sex.....

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Would it bother you? I don't think it would bother me in the least. It's never happened, but I don't think it would bother me. Obviously this includes your wife, or husband, as well.
 
When you say "the opposite sex," do you mean opposite of her, or of me? In other words, are you talking about a girlfriend/wife cheating on you with another woman, rather than another man?

Either way, the answer is, yeah it would bother me, probably quite a lot. I'm assuming there has been some agreement that we're monogamous. If so, then cheating is a breach of that trust. It's also dishonest, so it would decrease my respect for her. And it's an insult to me, so I'd probably feel hurt and maybe angry. (It's never happened; I'm just speculating.)

Now, if it is an "open relationship," then I've got no grounds to complain.
 
Andy said:
When you say "the opposite sex," do you mean opposite of her, or of me? In other words, are you talking about a girlfriend/wife cheating on you with another woman, rather than another man?

Either way, the answer is, yeah it would bother me, probably quite a lot. I'm assuming there has been some agreement that we're monogamous. If so, then cheating is a breach of that trust. It's also dishonest, so it would decrease my respect for her. And it's an insult to me, so I'd probably feel hurt and maybe angry. (It's never happened; I'm just speculating.)

Now, if it is an "open relationship," then I've got no grounds to complain.
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Opposite sex of you.
 
Plainview said:
Opposite sex of you.
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Gotcha.

Yeah, either way, it would bother me.

If it's with a woman, it introduces another level. I know two guys whose wives left them for women. That can be pretty rough on the old masculine self-image. "After being with me for 5 years, my wife became a lesbian." lol.
 
My partner's could f*** a yak for all I care, as long as they're safe.

If they had full on relationships on the side, I'd feel different.
 
I think it would bother me more than a same sex as me affair. Another man I can compete with but a woman would bring something to the table that I couldn't have an answer for.

Like others it's more of a breach of trust and respect than a who.
 
7 Things Bonobos Can Teach Us About Love and Sex

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...hings-bonobos-can-teach-us-about-love-and-sex

1. More sex = less conflict. As the great primatologist, Frans de Waal put it, "Chimps use violence to get sex, while bonobos use sex to avoid violence." While chimps victimize each other in many ways—rape, murder, infanticide, warfare between groups—there's never been a single observed case of any of these forms of aggression among bonobos, who are much sexier than chimps. As James Prescott demonstrated in a meta-analysis of all available anthropological data, the connection between less restrictive sexuality and less conflict generally holds true for human societies as well.

2. Feminism can be very sexy. When females are in charge, everyone lives better (including the males). While male chimps run the show, among bonobos, it's the females who are in charge, with much better quality of life for everyone involved (see #1).

3. Sisterhood is powerful. Although female bonobos are about 20% smaller than males—roughly the same ratio as in chimps and humans—they dominate males by sticking together. If a male gets out of line and harasses a female, ALL the other females will gang up on him. This sisterly solidarity, combined with lots of sex, tends to keep the males behaving politely.

4. Jealousy isn't romantic. While bonobos no-doubt experience unique feelings for one another, they don't seem to worry much about controlling one another's sex lives. Nor do bonobos seem to gossip much...

5. There's promise in promiscuity. All the casual sex among bonobos is arguably a big part of what has made them among the smartest of all primates. Until human beings came along and messed things up for them, bonobos enjoyed very high quality of life, low stress, and plenty of social interaction in hammocks. In fact, of the many species of social primates living in multi-male social groups, not a single species is sexually monogamous. Each of the arguably smartest mammals--humans, chimps, bonobos, and dolphins—is promiscuous.

6. Good sex needn't always include an orgasm, and "casual" doesn't necessarily mean "empty" or "cheap." Most bonobo sexual interactions are nothing more than a quick feel, rub, or intromission—a "bonobo handshake," if you will. (See Vanessa Woods's excellent book by that name for a personal story of living with bonobos while falling in love.) But bonobos are very romantic: like humans, they kiss, hold hands (and feet!), and gaze into one another's eyes while having sex.

7. Sex and food go together better than love and marriage—at least for bonobos. Nothing gets a bonobo orgy started faster than a feast. Give a group of bonobos a bunch of food and they'll all have some quick sex before very politely sharing the food. No need to fight over scraps like a bunch of uncouth chimps!
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For some reason, it actually wouldn't...not that much anyways...I don't even know why.
 
The Living Tribunal said:
If my girlfriend cheated on me I'd be okay if she allowed me to bang other hot women.

Road goes both ways.

Otherwise hell no.
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Do you think you could handle an open relationship?

That goes for other posters too.

Most people consider open relationships as lesser than monogamous ones, or less serious at the least.
 
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