Ok Unionists, whats you current relationship status?

What's your current relationship status?

  • Married and happy

  • Married and miserable

  • Shacked up and living in sin

  • Long term relationship but not cohabiting

  • I date people... like a lot.... you could say I'm a whore

  • I date occasionally but I'm cool being alone

  • My real doll is on order


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Happily single. I date occasionally, but I'm an idiosyncratic, independent, and over-educated person in a small city composed mostly of traditional women, so I don't have a lot of motivation. The women I date invariably want to get into a relationship with me, and so sometimes it's easier just to avoid, rather than hurt people's feelings. As I get older, so do they, and most aren't physically attractive. Just doesn't seem worth the effort. I'm not a traditionalist, so there's usually a mismatch there. Also, I'm not interested in marriage or in being a provider/rescuer, and that's what a lot of women are looking for. I'm also increasingly picky about who I let into my life. So, although I occasionally get into relationships, they don't tend to last more than about six months.

I am one of those people who is just built to be single. I function better that way. I like my freedom. I've never wanted a family, even when I was a young man. I always wanted to do something different than everyone else, live a different sort of life. I figured everybody is already doing the family & kids thing, I'm going to do something different. The road less traveled and all that. It's been good, no regrets. Of course it's a trade-off, so there are times I miss having a wife or family or the usual domestic setup -- it is reassuring and comforting. But I'm too oriented to freedom and independence to have that sort of thing fit me for any length of time. I was married for a while, and after the honeymoon period, I felt increasingly like I was living someone else's life. I got out after 4 years and felt relief.

Anyhow, that's a bit of a ramble. Short answer: happily single, with occasional forays into short/medium-term relationships. Won't ever get married. Too risky.
 
Damn I haven't even ordered a real doll yet. I value my alone time too much to have a relationship at this point in my life. Maybe when I get older I'll think about it, but I spend enough time around people at work that I just want to come home and do absolutely nothing. Or when I do want to do something, I don't have to worry about scheduling it around someone else.
 
Married. Happily I guess? Not miserable, but a lot of ups and downs. What's funny is if you asked me when I was 18 I would have said I would always be single, but I've basically been with the same woman now for 25 years, going on 20 years of marriage. As much as I could gripe about my wife I'd probably be one of those guys who gets a divorce and is re-married again a short time later.
 
single loser.

Real answer: I am still working on trying to get a career off the ground. Still live at home. Not much disposable income and high student loan debt. I also have depression issues.

I really don't have much to offer in a relationship right now even if I do meet woman that I am into. Most of my friends are married with kids/in long term relationships, so that kind of sucks. So I just do my own thing these days unless a friend(s) want to hangout. Spend a lot of time working and going to the gym. Video games when I can, mostly on weekends.
 
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Damn I haven't even ordered a real doll yet. I value my alone time too much to have a relationship at this point in my life. Maybe when I get older I'll think about it, but I spend enough time around people at work that I just want to come home and do absolutely nothing. Or when I do want to do something, I don't have to worry about scheduling it around someone else.


Is it the judging eyes?
 
I'm away all the time truck driving to pay off my student loans. Made bad choices I guess and just never got a decent career going.

It's awkward to workout even meeting local people with a job like this being gone all the time. I'm barely home driving 12 days at a time across the southeast statesin my current job and Truck Driving is known for causing divorces for people who do tried to be married.

Someday I'll pay off my debts and get my financial life in order and also try to find a more local job.
 
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Happily single. I date occasionally, but I'm an idiosyncratic, independent, and over-educated person in a small city composed mostly of traditional women, so I don't have a lot of motivation. The women I date invariably want to get into a relationship with me, and so sometimes it's easier just to avoid, rather than hurt people's feelings. As I get older, so do they, and most aren't physically attractive. Just doesn't seem worth the effort. I'm not a traditionalist, so there's usually a mismatch there. Also, I'm not interested in marriage or in being a provider/rescuer, and that's what a lot of women are looking for. I'm also increasingly picky about who I let into my life. So, although I occasionally get into relationships, they don't tend to last more than about six months.

I am one of those people who is just built to be single. I function better that way. I like my freedom. I've never wanted a family, even when I was a young man. I always wanted to do something different than everyone else, live a different sort of life. I figured everybody is already doing the family & kids thing, I'm going to do something different. The road less traveled and all that. It's been good, no regrets. Of course it's a trade-off, so there are times I miss having a wife or family or the usual domestic setup -- it is reassuring and comforting. But I'm too oriented to freedom and independence to have that sort of thing fit me for any length of time. I was married for a while, and after the honeymoon period, I felt increasingly like I was living someone else's life. I got out after 4 years and felt relief.

Anyhow, that's a bit of a ramble. Short answer: happily single, with occasional forays into short/medium-term relationships. Won't ever get married. Too risky.
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Next month will be our 20th wedding anniversary. She's still putting up with me, so that's good enough. We dated for 7 years before that. :surprise:

No kids. No plan to have them. We let rabbits and dogs into our lives.
 
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I figured some married guy would get defensive about my statements and trot out the usual stereotypes about loneliness, dying alone, etc., in order to buttress his life choices. Congrats on being predictable.

For all we know, he's married, a victim of divorce rape, or widowed and depressed because he can't figure out how to function independently.

The stereotypes about being single aren't grounded in reality. Especially for people who want to be single. It's different if you feel forced to be single -- i.e., you want to be married but cannot find a partner. That's different. But then, that's not me.
 
I figured some married guy would get defensive about my statements and trot out the usual stereotypes about loneliness, dying alone, etc., in order to buttress his life choices. Congrats on being predictable.

For all we know, he's married, a victim of divorce rape, or widowed and depressed because he can't figure out how to function independently.

The stereotypes about being single aren't grounded in reality. Especially for people who want to be single. It's different if you feel forced to be single -- i.e., you want to be married but cannot find a partner. That's different. But then, that's not me.
I think Swede was playing around and had tongue firmly planted in cheek.
 
I figured some married guy would get defensive about my statements and trot out the usual stereotypes about loneliness, dying alone, etc., in order to buttress his life choices. Congrats on being predictable.

For all we know, he's married, a victim of divorce rape, or widowed and depressed because he can't figure out how to function independently.

The stereotypes about being single aren't grounded in reality. Especially for people who want to be single. It's different if you feel forced to be single -- i.e., you want to be married but cannot find a partner. That's different. But then, that's not me.
Lol I was joking my friend
 
Single and will be till I die. To introverted and don't like myself enough to have a relastionship. My friends and family keep me from being to lonely.
 
single loser.

Real answer: I am still working on trying to get a career off the ground. Still live at home. Not much disposable income and high student loan debt. I also have depression issues.

I really don't have much to offer in a relationship right now even if I do meet woman that I am into. Most of my friends are married with kids/in long term relationships, so that kind of sucks. So I just do my own thing these days unless a friend(s) want to hangout. Spend a lot of time working and going to the gym. Video games when I can, mostly on weekends.

You need to find a middle aged woman with money to be your sugar mama.
 
Anyone married with a side piece?
i got close once a few years back. Old flame from college was back east to visit . It took a lot of will power and a surprise call from my son while we were about to do the nasty in my car that prevented me from ruining my life. My wife has had dinner with old BF's before so I was open beforehand that I was going to see an old GF. I'm relieved it didn't happen, but the sexual energy is still there and when I talk to this old GF once a year, its hard not to feel it.
I mean she wasn't really a GF in college, more like a friend with benefits and we weren't friends.