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This is obviously a big problem. It's been a big problem on the internet since the beginning. This video hit me. It's tough to watch. I just want to give this kid a hug and let him know it's going to be ok. He's made fun of because of surgery he had to remove a tumor from his brain.

There's a big outreach for him right now. Chris Evans invited him to Avengers opening. Derek Delgaudio and Patton Oswalt started a fund for him to get his college tuition paid for.





 
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In high school I bullied a kid and I didn't realize I was doing it. Me and two others would give this kid a hard time. I wasn't that rough on him. It was more like he was under me and I was giving him a hard time. The two others, who were in his grade, were pretty hard on him. I never noticed, or thought anything of it, because he never said a word about it to me. It was when I was called into the office that it hit me. I was too proud to admit I did anything wrong.

As time has passed I realized I was wrong. It didn't matter that I thought I wasn't being rough on him. What mattered was how he felt. Not everyone is the same. People tried to bully me when I was younger, but I put an end to that, quickly. Not everyone can do that. I like to feel that I learned as I got older. Now, when I see something like what happened to Keaton, I'm affected by it. I don't want any kid to feel like he does. Sure, there's a line about what's considered bullying and just being kids, but in Keaton's case, it's bullying. That should never happen. A kid should not be reduced to tears like that.

The school authorities know what's going on. They have to. They need to step the f*** up and handle this. The kids need to be dealt with, now, before it gets worse as they get older. We've lost too many kids to suicide due to bullying, and not to mention, adults as well.
 
I was bullied when I was 12 or 13. It was very painful. I was a natural target -- new kid in town, shy, short, glasses, braces, nerdy-looking, introverted, insecure. I remember sitting on my bed, holding a knife to my chest, thinking about sticking it in. I wouldn't have done it -- I don't even like needles, much less knives, lol. But I was miserable, depressed, and thought about suicide. Probably would've done it, if I had an easier means. I struggled for years because of that. I was just completely unprepared for the cruelty I encountered.

Things re. bullying are better and worse now. Worse because of the internet and cyberbullying, but better because of the attention and awareness. I feel bad for him, but at least he has someone to talk to, and a celebrity backing him up. Most just suffer in silence, isolation, and shame.
 
Funny how all these stories end in a 'give us your money' fundraiser.
 
Hmm, interesting information in the comments section of the go fund me page.

Do feel bad for the kid. Things will get better though. Middle school/high school is hard, but it seems that through the campaign at least part of his college tuition will be paid for. That's where the world really opens up and you're generally around better people who don't resort to bullying.
 
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Yeah I saw that story too. And it affected me the same way.

I hope he has people around him to tell him how wonderful he really is and that what certain people think of you doesn't really mean much.
 
Andy said:
I was bullied when I was 12 or 13. It was very painful. I was a natural target -- new kid in town, shy, short, glasses, braces, nerdy-looking, introverted, insecure. I remember sitting on my bed, holding a knife to my chest, thinking about sticking it in. I wouldn't have done it -- I don't even like needles, much less knives, lol. But I was miserable, depressed, and thought about suicide. Probably would've done it, if I had an easier means. I struggled for years because of that. I was just completely unprepared for the cruelty I encountered.

Things re. bullying are better and worse now. Worse because of the internet and cyberbullying, but better because of the attention and awareness. I feel bad for him, but at least he has someone to talk to, and a celebrity backing him up. Most just suffer in silence, isolation, and shame.
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I'm sorry to hear you went through that. Hopefully you can pass along what you've learned to other people that may be affected?
 
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Hmm, interesting information in the comments section of the go fund me page.

Do feel bad for the kid. Things will get better though. Middle school/high school is hard, but it seems that through the campaign at least part of his college tuition will be paid for. That's where the world really opens up and you're generally around better people who don't resort to bullying.
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Apparently someone created a fake Instagram account and started trolling the page.
 
I ran into a guy that bullied me in school a few years ago.
Needless to say Im quite a bit larger than him now..I got quite a few apologies that I really wasn't asking for and the conversation was civil and non confrontational.
 
Dark Helmet said:
I ran into a guy that bullied me in school a few years ago.
Needless to say Im quite a bit larger than him now..I got quite a few apologies that I really wasn't asking for and the conversation was civil and non confrontational.
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I want to contact the kid from high school. I'm sure I can find him. What I'm afraid of is opening up an old wound, if it was worse than I thought, or opening up a can of worms in case the reaction to the apology is highly negative.
 
I bullied someone in middle school. The guilt from that made me stick up for bullied kids in high school for my first 2 years until I got sick of all of the fights it kept getting me in to.

School sucks.
 
I don't want to sound harsh but this is a part of life. Not just in humans I might add. Even animals fight it out to see who is the alpha. Part of being pushed around is learning to stand up for yourself. No one is going to stand up for you as an adult. My son was pushed around some in school until he stood up and said no more.
 
BettaCall911 said:
I don't want to sound harsh but this is a part of life. Not just in humans I might add. Even animals fight it out to see who is the alpha. Part of being pushed around is learning to stand up for yourself. No one is going to stand up for you as an adult. My son was pushed around some in school until he stood up and said no more.
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Agree with you for the most part but the cyber bullying thing can really get out of hand. People can say some pretty vile things when they feel tough behind a keyboard.

I remember having my toys stolen all the time by older kids in grade 1 and 2.
Didn't effect me then, certainly doesn't now.
In high school some people talked sh1t behind my back but nobody was ballsy enough to say anything to my face.
 
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I was a strange, awkward kid (shock!), but most big bully jock types tended to ignore me for some reason. Kids my own size or smaller however would give me all kinds of s***. When I was a freshman this one group of jackals would surround me, push me around, call me every name etc..

One day I singled out the smallest one in the group. I picked him up and threw him into some rose bushes, where he got pretty scratched up. The rest of his group laughed their asses off and never bothered me again.

There was another kid who called me a loser f***ot every day for weeks. Eventually I grabbed his throat and slammed his head into a locker. Never heard from him again.

I understand most bully victims don't have an option to fight back. I was just lucky my bullies happened to just be verbal abusers and didn't really know what to do when physically attacked. And I'm not yet prepared to talk with my son about this, because I don't want him to believe violence is always the answer.

Edit: And cyber bullying -- no idea how to deal with that yet for my son. I have to start planning.
 
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I'm not far from the kid and it's been blowing up big-time around here (and I guess the world at this point). If your heart doesn't pour out for this young man then you have ice in your veins. I hope that at the very least it elevates him into a superstar in his school and those kids that have been dumping milk on him become the outcasts for a bit to see how it feels.

Yes, I think most all of us have likely been bullied in some fashion when we were younger but as often happens we go on to be successful, get the girl, and the job while those bullies become clerks at Walmart, divorced from the cheerleader and paying child support, and have addiction problems. (Broad paint brush there with plenty of exceptions.) Call it other-worldly influence, karma, or just fate there it all tends to work out in the long haul.

Will bullying, sexual harassment, racism ever go away? Nope. But cheers to those who have stood up to it like Keaton and drawn their line in the sand. It doesn't always have to be a physical response as this young lad has clearly shown. Kudos!!!
 
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I'm a tradesman in the oil industry and man oh man, if a guy shows any kind of weakness and that something someone says bothers you..... they're like sharks and go into a frenzy like bloods in the water.

I love bugging the sh*t out of my coworkers but if I hit a nerve and upset someone I'll offer an apology and know not to do it again.
Guys will give it back to me though and I laugh it all off.

I've also had to speak to other guys though who won't stop bugging someone. People respect me though so when I say to stop they stop.
 
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I didn't realize how big a deal this kid's video has become. Just searched Youtube on bullying, and he's all over the first page. He's on the news everywhere, and a bunch of celebrities (LeBron James, Jennifer Lopez, Justin Beiber) are showing support for him. That's good, but it feels weird, too, the way Hollywood latches on to particular stories and tends to ignore the wider problem, then forgets about it in a week. And I guess I'm cynical about most celebrities -- I don't know how much they are doing it out of real love/compassion, and how much they are doing it for their image, to look good.
 
Well this took a turn.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/g...on-hold/ar-BBGCGNN?li=BBmkt5R&ocid=spartanntp

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But Keaton’s sob story quickly turned controversial when MMA fighter Joe Schilling said he had exposed a woman claiming to be Kimberly Jones.

Schilling said in an Instagram video he reached out to Jones offering to take her son to a Los Angeles show, but said she just “wants money” and wanted him to share a GoFundMe page.

It wasn’t clear if it was the same page created by Lam. He did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

Jones told Fox News she “did not tell him (Schilling) that I would rather have donations instead of the help from celebrities.”

She also made headlines Monday after an alleged Facebook post showed her posing with a Confederate flag.

“I've taken that down for a reason,” Jones told Fox News, without saying why.

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Oblong said:
Yes, I think most all of us have likely been bullied in some fashion when we were younger but as often happens we go on to be successful, get the girl, and the job while those bullies become clerks at Walmart, divorced from the cheerleader and paying child support, and have addiction problems.
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Speak for yourself! I wont touch the girl 'to be got' with Michael Fassbender's 10 foot penis. :p

This may be suprising, but growing up in a religious country town kinda sucked, when your gayness can be seen from space. My mum described me as "A kid who always had a little too much sugar in his gas tank", but I never really started to experience problematic bullying until I was 13, but even then, it was just being called f**** 10-15 times a day, people would yell out "Danger! f**** entering" each time I would walk into a bathroom, and when changing for gym, it was always "Be careful or he'll try and rape you or suck your dick off", but I've always been stupidly confident, so it never really bothered me that much when it was spread out.

I told my best friend that I was gay, and had a boyfriend (online at the time, from some video game forums.) when I turned 15 and I'd catch the train for 3 hours to see him twice a month, or he would visit me, and I'd already told my mum, but not my dad, since he would kick my ass. Anyway, I was away visiting my boyfriend for a few days, and had missed a big party that all the teens from the surrounding towns would be at.

The weekend that I was away in Melbourne, my best friend used the newfound confirmed news about me, and leveredged it in an attempt to get 'in' with the popular girls.

The following Monday, I was on the bus to school, and I hadnt checked my myspace for a few days but I could tell that something had changed by the way everyone was looking at me. I felt like filth. The s*** that was said still stings a bit... The amount of times I got told that the seats would have to be burnt so people wont get aids...

The day went on... I had my locker filled with rotten fruit and peels, death threats and "die f****" written all over the books in my locker, my school bag was pissed on, my change of clothes I found shoved in a toilet, my best friends I'd known since I was 3 refused to even make eye contact with me, this group of guys would take their duck-bill hats off when I'd walk past and whack me in the dick with the peak so it really stung.

And then it pretty much continued on for a few months, and I decided to tell my Dad... on Fathers day. He broke my nose, dragged me down the front steps of the house and kicked me out...

Then I found out my boyfriend was banging another dude he'd found on myspace. It was a pretty s***ty 3 months to say the least.

I still have my old myspace account, and the comments on it are really f***ed up. At my highschool reunion, I brought it up on my phone, and deliberately showed the spouses of the f***ers that made my life hell.

I went from aspirations to be a lawyer, to being a homeless 15 year old kid, that f***ed a bunch of gross guys for a place to stay.
 
It turns out this family is a piece of work. His mothers facebook page was rather racist with rebel flags posted all over. Maybe he was paying the price for things his racist piece of crap parents were doing. I feel for the kid but sometimes karma bites you in the ass.
 
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It turns out this family is a piece of work. His mothers facebook page was rather racist with rebel flags posted all over. Maybe he was paying the price for things his racist piece of crap parents were doing. I feel for the kid but sometimes karma bites you in the ass.
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Regardless of the parents, some people have s*** parents, this kid shouldn't feel like he does. I hope people don't "turn" on this kid and make it worse. We can't choose who our parents are.
 
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