"Saying 'Goodbye' to Video Games"

Pretty interesting read. There's a part two there as well. He hits a lot of points that a lot of us, I am sure, dwell on.

http://thefitcast.com/saying-goodbye-to-video-games

This is a natural progression as we get older. We start wondering if we shouldn't be doing more productive things with our time. I definitely think I am devoting too much thought to gaming. I have a decent balance though. I never even turn on a game until everyone is asleep (I still use the console for music/ tv / occasional movie). I usually play when I wouldn't be doing anything otherwise. The worst is I do give up sleep for my game time. I don't buy games all that often, either, so though I have a sizable collection, it's not so much from over-buying.

I was just guilted into being a Cub Scout den Leader, and it may be the best thing for me. I've been thinking a lot about doing something positive in my community.
 
45 here and I've slowed down. Buy less games and game less. I'm more strict on what I play. I'm thankful for Indie games these days, because they tend to be shorter games.

I still plan on picking up Fallout 4, Halo 5 and Tomb Raider. These will take care of me for a good long time. I'm still working my way through Witcher 3. I might give myself 30 - hour a night. Summer was real slow this year. I tend to be more giving on the weekends, but I can't do an entire day of gaming anymore. I feel too guilty, like I should be doing something more productive.
 
He makes a point on spending on so much time on something with little return. The key is balance. He didn't obviously didn't have it. His entire world was gaming and he had nothing to show for it besides an obsessive collection of games and systems.

I can relate to his dilemma. As time for me to be a father draws near, I have to reevaluate everything I do and figure out how it affects me and my family. Video games are and always will be a part of my life. I don't ever see myself putting them behind me. They're a hobby. An escape. I don't earn money from them or contribute to a larger lucrative goal with them. They're a distraction. So I have focus on things that do offer more value for me and actually help me move forward in life.
 
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I'm 41 and my family is all in. :) We prefer to play games at night rather then watch TV. What makes it easy for me is both my wife and daughter love games as much as me. I don't see other hobbies or pursuits as better, we just like to have fun.
 
I didn't read the whole article, because it was too long, but I got the gist. To me, it sounded like he had an unhealthy obsession with videogames, and he finally recognized it wasn't worth all that time/effort. I agree! He was spending way too much time, and games occupied way too central a place in his life. However, I think now he's just gone to the other extreme, "saying goodbye." It's not all or nothing, black or white. He has trouble finding a good balance.

Personally, there are plenty of times when I've recognized that I spend too much time playing or reading about videogames. On the other hand, I tell myself it's a lot better than just sitting like a potato watching TV, which is what most people do -- at least it challenges me, requires something of me, engages me as a participant (and in the case of forums, requires thought and effort).

I spend much less time on games than I used to, though. It's probably 5 hours a week, something like that. Sometimes none. I spend about as much time on forums, watching TV, and reading. To me, it's just one among a set of things I use to occupy or divert my attention. Other people garden, work in the yard, collect figurines, whatever. I like my particular hobbies.

If it ever got to the point where I was obsessed like this guy was, I'd know I had a problem. At least I hope I'd know.
 
The guy in that article was "Tore up" as they say when it comes to video games , he lived it and breathed it so its no surprise he eventually burned out , I think you need to have multiple hobbies or pass times that you can alternate between.
 
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I've had similar cases of burnout (not the driving game series). When I feel like I've been gaming too much, I usually fast for a bit from it. Some days, I spend more time looking at my collection than playing. Some days I bounce from game to game and am not satisfied. It's these days I know I need to pull back. It also usually means, for me, that it's time to write a song or play music instead of playing a game.
 
I didn't read the whole article, because it was too long, but I got the gist. To me, it sounded like he had an unhealthy obsession with videogames, and he finally recognized it wasn't worth all that time/effort. I agree! He was spending way too much time, and games occupied way too central a place in his life. However, I think now he's just gone to the other extreme, "saying goodbye." It's not all or nothing, black or white. He has trouble finding a good balance.

Personally, there are plenty of times when I've recognized that I spend too much time playing or reading about videogames. On the other hand, I tell myself it's a lot better than just sitting like a potato watching TV, which is what most people do -- at least it challenges me, requires something of me, engages me as a participant (and in the case of forums, requires thought and effort).

I spend much less time on games than I used to, though. It's probably 5 hours a week, something like that. Sometimes none. I spend about as much time on forums, watching TV, and reading. To me, it's just one among a set of things I use to occupy or divert my attention. Other people garden, work in the yard, collect figurines, whatever. I like my particular hobbies.

If it ever got to the point where I was obsessed like this guy was, I'd know I had a problem. At least I hope I'd know.
To his credit, he did say that the answer isn't an "either/or" issue. He basically just said what we already know- Don't make it the center of your life. Balance. Treat it as the hobby it is, not a lifestyle.
 
To me, there is not difference between playing a video game, watching TV or reading a book. Its time I spend entertaining myself. So, if I get more enjoyment out of gaming than the other two, then I'm going to game. I have no "adult" guilt about it, despite my wife's many attempts to make me think its immature. She watches Real Housewives and Bachelorette...please tell me how that's any less of a waste of time than video games. I work two jobs, bought a house in a great community and pay my bills on time. I spend a ton less time playing games than I used to and probably a ton less money on it as well. I told me wife, I'm going to game forever, I enjoy it. I could be out whoreing, gambling or using drugs....video games are not that bad.
 
Yeah, he has a problem with obsession which seems to stem from some escapism that he needed games for. It doesn't really have anything to do with getting older as such. Playing video games is the same as any other hobby, you need to have it in balance with the rest of your life.
 
I literally play like fifteen minutes every couple of days before I get into my work. It helps to distract me and frees up my right brain so I can be creative. Video games also help you to write better movies and television as well (I've talked to and worked with so many people who still don't believe it) as I've seriously gotten ideas from something from a game I played at one time or another. Plus because they are primarily visual, they help me to show more action in my scripts. All this is going to change this year though, and I doubt I'll be gaming even as much as fifteen minutes in a week. We'll be heading off to the studio in L.A. where I'll be spending much of my time in the writers room with other creatives, thinking s*** up.

I'll find a minute or two for them, no doubt, even as we get into higher gears. I couldnt imagine playing even two hours or an hour in a day now though.
 
To me, there is not difference between playing a video game, watching TV or reading a book. Its time I spend entertaining myself. So, if I get more enjoyment out of gaming than the other two, then I'm going to game. I have no "adult" guilt about it, despite my wife's many attempts to make me think its immature. She watches Real Housewives and Bachelorette...please tell me how that's any less of a waste of time than video games. I work two jobs, bought a house in a great community and pay my bills on time. I spend a ton less time playing games than I used to and probably a ton less money on it as well. I told me wife, I'm going to game forever, I enjoy it. I could be out whoreing, gambling or using drugs....video games are not that bad.

I have had this exact same discussion with my wife. She loves TV, me not so much. I love gaming, she not so much. Neither of us has an argument against the other, they are both viable forms of entertainment/relaxation.

Like you, I can't see myself quitting. I have slowed down alot, too old for more than 2 hour marathons and twitch shooters don't jibe with my slowed reaction times. I find story games and slower paced games more enjoyable now.
 
Yeah, he has a problem with obsession which seems to stem from some escapism that he needed games for. It doesn't really have anything to do with getting older as such. Playing video games is the same as any other hobby, you need to have it in balance with the rest of your life.

Yeah, i think balance is the key to anything in life. Video games are just like anything else, if you devote too much time to them it's just going to take away time from the other things you could be doing. Lately, i only play about 2-3 hours at night. I never really play during the day because i'm either working or doing other things. Even when i have free time to play i try not to over do it. I could give up gaming entirely, if i had something better to do with my life but until then i'm good. There's a lot worse we could be doing to ourselves than gaming.
 
Seems natural. I know I game a lot less these days. More interests now than when I was a kid. But gaming will always be one of my interests I'm sure of that.
 
Seems pretty overly dramatic to me. Most people who stop playing video games just do it. They don't write an essay about it.
He's a visionary. A game-playing, body building, podcast listening, visionary.
 
Why do I cringe anytime someone calls gaming a hobby?

I generally use that word to describe more involved focuses like woodworking, writing, playing tennis etc...
 
Why do I cringe anytime someone calls gaming a hobby?

I generally use that word to describe more involved focuses like woodworking, writing, playing tennis etc...
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Why do I cringe anytime someone calls gaming a hobby?

I generally use that word to describe more involved focuses like woodworking, writing, playing tennis etc...

I don't know. We call it a hobby because

hob·by1
ˈhäbē/
noun
noun: hobby; plural noun: hobbies
  1. 1.
    an activity done regularly in one's leisure time for pleasure.
    "her hobbies are reading and gardening"
Gaming is an activity because you are involved in the action, whereas something like TV is purely passive. Although reading is pretty passive, but perhaps because you are actively creating the mental imagery, that can include it as well.
 
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I play games and I have fun, but I don't obsess. Too much of anything can be a bad thing, but as adults people should be able to balance their time.

This fall is the perfect example. There are just way more games coming out than I have time to play. So, I pass on some games that are likely great and stick with a few of the ones I really love. Last month, 3 games (well 1 expansion) all hit on the same day- Forza 6, Destiny Taken King and NHL 16. No way would I ever have time for all 3, so I passed on NHL this year even though I've gotten it almost every single year since the 90s. I'd also love to give Fifa a try but again I don't have the time. I can barely keep up with Taken King and Forza.
 
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I dwell on not being able to play games more, I still buy games like I have thr opportunity to play them all and I probably have the biggest backlog on this website. Life will always come first, unfortunately lol
 
What do you call it?

I don't know. A leisurely activity?

I mean, according to Frozpot's definition, masturbating to porn could be called a hobby. Would anyone call that a hobby?

It kind of wreaks of gamers trying to legitimize their pastime to me.
 
I don't know. A leisurely activity?

I mean, according to Frozpot's definition, masturbating to porn could be called a hobby. Would anyone call that a hobby?

It kind of wreaks of gamers trying to legitimize their pastime to me.
Well you just shot down 2 of my hobbies with just one post...
 
I don't know. A leisurely activity?

But that's just repeating the definition of a hobby -- "an activity done regularly in one's leisure time."

I mean, according to Frozpot's definition, masturbating to porn could be called a hobby. Would anyone call that a hobby?

It kind of wreaks of gamers trying to legitimize their pastime to me.

By equating it with masturbation?

I don't see why calling something a "hobby" grants it some kind of honor or legitimacy. People have all kinds of weird, ridiculous hobbies. Calling something a "hobby" isn't like calling it "art" or something like that. It doesn't lend it some kind of credence.

Here's a list of 10 weird hobbies:

1. Playing dead

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2. Appearing in the background on TV

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3. Collecting tea bag covers

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4. Collecting elongated coins

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5. Tapophilia - enjoyment of cemeteries.

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6. Tatooing vehicles

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7. Suing

"Those include lawsuits against New England Patriots coach Bill Belichick, former President George W. Bush, Somali pirates, Britney Spears and Martha Stewart. He’s also filed lawsuits against Plato, Nostradamus, James Hoffa, “Various Buddhist Monks,” the Lincoln Memorial, the Eiffel Tower and Three Mile Island."

8. Grooming dogs to look like other animals

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9. Beetle fighting

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10. Knitting breasts

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http://amazingbeautifulworld.com/entertainment/10-of-the-strangest-hobbies/
http://www.writers-free-reference.com/11hobbies.htm
 
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