Getting felt up as a man....
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I love it when people poke my pride. Sometimes I poke my own pride, for hours on end.
Sometimes, after poking at my pride at just the right angle, with just the right amount of pride poking pressure, when I think my pride can't be poked anymore and I keep poking it, there's like this giant eruption...
Sometimes, after poking at my pride at just the right angle, with just the right amount of pride poking pressure, when I think my pride can't be poked anymore and I keep poking it, there's like this giant eruption...
I laugh at this because I got so sick of this song (hasn't everyone) that I changed the words to "You're a Schmo", which also happens to work perfectly in the case of someone who can't seem to "Let it Go". I find myself singing my version of this song more often than I want.
You don't know the first thing about science. So the attack pretty meaningless.
How did I miss this thread before?
The reactions to the original story are interesting to say the least, but I agree with Bellybama, if you felt violated then you were. Women are getting bolder these days though.
And yes, the male/female standards are different. It's not exactly 'fair' but that's how it is...for now anyways .
I've had this happen a bunch of times, from men and women. I'm male and the first time a guy did it, I was walking into a really nice bar in Honolulu. This guy was walking out and he slapped/grabbed my ass as I was walking in. I turned around but he just kept walking away as if nothing had happened. For a second I thought I'd imagined it, but after a few minutes of sitting at the bar, I noticed the few TV screens inside were playing loops of shirtless dudes running on the beach. The music playing was all boy bands like BB, N'Sync, Take That, etc (it was in the 90s). Then I realized there were only dudes in there. Yup. So I couldn't really get upset about the ass grabbing.
Last summer I went to a concert in NYC...small indoor venue. We were mashed in there, and I was behind this girl. She turned around a couple times to smile but never said anything . We were so smooshed I was basically up on her. After a few songs she reached around behind her and just held onto my boy the rest or the show.
I didnt mind, but then again I wasn't with a GF.
So no, unless it's really unwanted or just creepy, I consider it a compliment of sorts.
But if any dude did any of that to my sister, I'd knock their teeth out immediately.
The reactions to the original story are interesting to say the least, but I agree with Bellybama, if you felt violated then you were. Women are getting bolder these days though.
And yes, the male/female standards are different. It's not exactly 'fair' but that's how it is...for now anyways .
I've had this happen a bunch of times, from men and women. I'm male and the first time a guy did it, I was walking into a really nice bar in Honolulu. This guy was walking out and he slapped/grabbed my ass as I was walking in. I turned around but he just kept walking away as if nothing had happened. For a second I thought I'd imagined it, but after a few minutes of sitting at the bar, I noticed the few TV screens inside were playing loops of shirtless dudes running on the beach. The music playing was all boy bands like BB, N'Sync, Take That, etc (it was in the 90s). Then I realized there were only dudes in there. Yup. So I couldn't really get upset about the ass grabbing.
Last summer I went to a concert in NYC...small indoor venue. We were mashed in there, and I was behind this girl. She turned around a couple times to smile but never said anything . We were so smooshed I was basically up on her. After a few songs she reached around behind her and just held onto my boy the rest or the show.
I didnt mind, but then again I wasn't with a GF.
So no, unless it's really unwanted or just creepy, I consider it a compliment of sorts.
But if any dude did any of that to my sister, I'd knock their teeth out immediately.
Another meaningless attack. I bet you couldn't even explain why gravity doesn't break the second law of thermodynamics.
Hmm, now i'm beginning to think your "luscious ass" attacked the girls hand.
Then why don't we talk about your pitiful understanding of the English language. You tried to post on a thread about double standards without even knowing what a double standard is. Am I lying?
It's interesting to watch you flail around. You get no traction, and yet you keep trying.
You're persistent, I'll give you that. Not effective, but persistent. Or maybe the word I'm looking for is obsessive.
You're a failure, Andy. "It's not a double standard. It's just less appropriate when the genders are flipped."
Enjoy it while it lasts.
Now that I'm 30, I'm starting to feel un-stalkable.
I haven't had my jock stolen from my gym locker for weeks... I don't know what to do.
Kassen
I'm going to put an end to this. You're getting obsessively weird. You're obviously unable to let it go, despite everyone giving you feedback. It's like you've got this weird fixation on me or something. It needs to stop.
In the interests of putting an end to this, I'm going to restate what I said. And then we're going to drop it.
Whether the inappropriate touching goes from man to woman or woman to man or man to man or woman to woman, it's wrong and it's inappropriate. I've said that already, but I'll say it again. It's wrong no matter who's doing it to whom.
However, it is (on average) experienced by women differently than it is experienced by men. That's because of something called context. (Sorry to be pedantic, but I feel I have to spell it out.) Sure, there are lots of similarities, but there are also significant differences in the experience -- differences that relate to gender roles, the greater physical size of men, the society it takes place in, the higher rates of sexual violence by men, the higher likelihood that a man will be in a power position when this happens, and other factors.
This shouldn't come as a surprise. Women sometimes experience things differently than men do. The same thing is true for all kinds of other contextual factors, not just gender. For instance, the same behavior may be experienced differently when it goes white to black, vs. when it goes black to white. Same behavior, but different context (history, etc.). And so, different experience.
To me, this is just common sense. You've got behavior, and then you've got the context the behavior happens in.
Kassen I need you to just accept that (even if you don't agree), and just drop it. You've baited and trolled me quite enough, so I'm not interested in having a discussion with you about this. If you continue arguing/baiting, I'm going to boot you. (I'm fine with discussing this with others, if they want).
I'm going to put an end to this. You're getting obsessively weird. You're obviously unable to let it go, despite everyone giving you feedback. It's like you've got this weird fixation on me or something. It needs to stop.
In the interests of putting an end to this, I'm going to restate what I said. And then we're going to drop it.
Whether the inappropriate touching goes from man to woman or woman to man or man to man or woman to woman, it's wrong and it's inappropriate. I've said that already, but I'll say it again. It's wrong no matter who's doing it to whom.
However, it is (on average) experienced by women differently than it is experienced by men. That's because of something called context. (Sorry to be pedantic, but I feel I have to spell it out.) Sure, there are lots of similarities, but there are also significant differences in the experience -- differences that relate to gender roles, the greater physical size of men, the society it takes place in, the higher rates of sexual violence by men, the higher likelihood that a man will be in a power position when this happens, and other factors.
This shouldn't come as a surprise. Women sometimes experience things differently than men do. The same thing is true for all kinds of other contextual factors, not just gender. For instance, the same behavior may be experienced differently when it goes white to black, vs. when it goes black to white. Same behavior, but different context (history, etc.). And so, different experience.
To me, this is just common sense. You've got behavior, and then you've got the context the behavior happens in.
Kassen I need you to just accept that (even if you don't agree), and just drop it. You've baited and trolled me quite enough, so I'm not interested in having a discussion with you about this. If you continue arguing/baiting, I'm going to boot you. (I'm fine with discussing this with others, if they want).
No, you've baited me. Don't play the victim. I don't mind your opinion. But it is a double standard. Get over it. Your "context" is "swap genders." So yeah, it's exactly a double standard. Go learn you some English and swallow your pride.
